Shopping for yourself is definitely difficult with small children. Try short amounts of time with promises of things they like to do after you have "mommy's turn to shop." I spent a lot of time in the Disney Store when mine were little, but they had to spend some time in my stores too. We would go back and forth with stores for them, and stores for me. It also helped that we went often enough that they were used to a similar routine on each shopping trip. We always took time for snacks and playing at the mall play areas, too.
Ideally, you need to have regular shopping outings when the kids are with dad or a babysitter. You'll get so much more accomplished, and not feel so pressured to get everything done during those unavoidable times when you must shop with the kids.
Online Shopping. Moms today are fortunate to have this option, so take advantage of it, even if only to get ideas of where to look and what's out there. Use sites that have free shipping and returns, like Nordstrom and Zappos.
Budgeting. Keep a separate budget for kids clothes and your clothes. Make sure you actually spend your budget, and don't use it on the kids.
This is the title of one of the lessons in my book,Six Word Lessons to Look Your Best. Maybe "fun" isn't quite the right word to describe budgeting for clothing, but it can definitely be rewarding, and make you feel proud of yourself for keeping your purchases to a predetermined, reasonable amount. So, in a way, it's kind of fun.
I have had a budget for about 20 years, and when I took a break for a few years, I gradually started spending too much, and realized that I felt guilty no matter how much or how little I bought! When I started budgeting again, I saw the benefit of keeping track of what I was buying, which made me feel much more in control.
Use a Spreadsheet. My husband and I started a household budget when we were first married, and we used Microsoft Excel, but there are other spreadsheet and budgeting products. Even paper and pen will work, just use what you like.
Save Receipts. I save receipts for everything that I am budgeting for--clothing, shoes, jewelry, etc. I don't include beauty products or services, because they aren't as difficult for me to control. Create categories as you see fit. Keep receipts from these categories in your wallet, or designate a basket or bowl in a prominent place at home, which works well if you are budgeting as a couple for your household. This helps to have them handy for returns as well. If you do return something, make sure you credit your spreadsheet.
Record Purchases Once a Week. Sit down with your receipts and record your purchases onto your spreadsheet and see what your balance is. Doing this once a week, say Sunday evening, helps you to always have the number in your head that is available to spend.
Set a Monthly Budget Amount. This is the hard part, and it's different for everyone. Obviously, you need to be able to afford it, but beyond that, try to come up with what you would like to be spending. You can make it quarterly or weekly amounts if you'd like, but monthly seems the right timing for me.
Keeping my clothing purchases within a budget has helped me to shop more intelligently. I shop at a variety of stores, such as Target, Nordstrom Rack, and consignment, as well as traditional clothing stores. Budgeting also helps me make better use of the clothes I have in my closet, by wearing them more often, but mixing them in different ways. I am more careful with what I buy, making sure it is the right fit and color, and that I really love it. It has helped me to be aware of major store's sales and keeping some money available for those sales.
Using a budget allows you to save up for large purchases you otherwise would think are too expensive or you would feel guilty about. As you purchase items, be very sure you want to keep them and wear them. This can take some time and trial and error, so always save receipts and invest the time to return items that you decide you don't like. Also, if something is in good
condition, and can't be returned, sell it at a consignment shop and use that money for new clothes.
For more information on setting up a budget, and a sample spreadsheet, contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org or 425-736-5893.
Wardrobe Consultant and Personal Shopper. Love to help women match their outside image to their unique inner beauty.